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I found home in a person before I found it in a place. In January 2017, I met my now-husband — a 6-foot-3 Indo-Fijian man with kind eyes and a deep, soothing voice — on Bumble in Canada.At the time, I was a New Yorker living in Toronto temporarily. I…

Several years ago, while driving behind a car with a “my-child-is-an-honor-student” bumper sticker, I said to my oldest son, sitting in the passenger seat, “I always wanted one of those.” Loading audio narration… He, then a college student, replied, “Why? It doesn’t mean anything.”He was right. In the greater scheme of things,…

I grew up in early 2000s Los Angeles, which is to say I grew up believing it was the center of the universe. Loading audio narration… Not metaphorically — literally. Everything sparkly seemed to happen there: movies, fame, ambition, reinvention. Even failure felt cinematic.For over a decade, I assumed this…

Time is a thief. When each of my four children was born, I thought they would be little forever. The baby and toddler years are so all-consuming that it seems like they will never end. But I learned, quickly, that the axiom that the days are long but the years…