My family moved from California to a small town in France. We can save money and work less to afford our lifestyle here.

When the family first moved to France, they rented a five-bedroom house with a pool in the small village of Saint-Savournin for about $2,532 a month.

They now live in a 2,800-square-foot, five-bedroom, three-bathroom home. Koh said an equivalent home in California would have cost them twice as much to buy.

In addition to saving on housing, the family is also spending less on day-to-day expenses. Koh said their monthly grocery bill is about 30% lower, and expenses related to the kids — such as summer camp — are about 50% lower.

Koh said some things are more expensive, like gas, while their electricity costs are about the same. Still, their property taxes are much lower in France than in California.

Living with her in-laws has been a big change. There is always someone else at home, and because life in France is more centered on cooking than takeout or DoorDash, Koh is now preparing meals for more people.

The family has also had to adjust to caring for her mother-in-law. While Koh’s father-in-law, along with a caregiver, handles more of those responsibilities, everyone in the household helps out — even the kids.

“The hardest part of this move has been seeing a loved one who was so capable change over time,” Koh said. “It’s also really tough for me because my kids don’t know their grandma the way she was before.

“But the time together has been really good,” she added. “I see how my son helps out, too — when he notices his grandma needs to drink more water, he’ll go get it for her. It’s really beautiful to see. It’s teaching my kids how to be nurturing, and it really emphasizes the importance of family.”

In California, Koh worked in marketing at a tech company, while her husband was an engineer at another tech company. The couple hoped that by leaving their fast-paced Silicon Valley jobs behind, they’d be able to enjoy life more and reconnect as a family.

While Koh now works as a brand manager, and her husband recently launched an app called Argoli, an AI support companion for older adults, she said the family’s work-life balance has shifted significantly in Europe.

“The first point of a lifestyle change is just getting away from Silicon Valley, and then the second layer is getting outside the US,” Koh said. “I think the US is very geared toward work. The amount of vacation people get in the US just doesn’t compare.”

Koh, who works from home, said she’s no longer working long hours and now gets a lot more time off — 37 vacation days a year in total.

“People here really focus on life outside work,” she added. “They don’t live to work. They work to live, and I find that refreshing. People know when to detach themselves from work.”

Koh is still learning how to speak French, which has made accomplishing some day-to-day tasks more difficult. As a result, her husband, a native French speaker, has taken on a larger role at home.

“Since being in France, my husband has really stepped up,” she said. “It hasn’t fundamentally changed our marriage, but there was initially more dependency on him because my French isn’t as good as his.”

Her kids, meanwhile, are thriving. Koh initially enrolled them in a private international school, but later withdrew them because they were still speaking too much English. After enrolling them in public school, she said both became fairly fluent within six months.

“Kids are sponges,” she said. “They now speak French to each other, even, and we sometimes have to remind them to speak English at home so they retain it. But they’ve adapted really well. I’d say we’ve been really, really lucky.”