- While fantasizing about a trip to the South of France, I realized it would be more fun with friends.
- I dropped my dream itinerary in a group chat with three friends I’d known for just a few months.
- To my surprise, they all wanted to go, and we had the trip of a lifetime.
I found myself crafting the perfect itinerary to the South of France, envisioning pristine beaches and dazzling scenery from Provence to the glamorous St. Tropez and Monaco, The dilemma? Though I was planning a solo trip, I realized it was actually the perfect destination for a glitzy girls’ trip. The kind you make memories you’ll still laugh about years down the line. Yet, as I’m nearing 40, the number of friends I have who can take time to travel as their lives move in the direction of marriage and growing families is dwindling.
So, I took the plunge and tossed my itinerary in a group chat a friend created after we all had a blast together at my birthday brunch, where they initially all met. I was nervous about the possible chorus of, “Love this but can’t… maybe next year?” replies. But seconds later, responses like “I’m down!” and “I’d be interested” came rolling in.
Following the enthusiastic replies, we started seriously planning our trip to the French Riviera in another dedicated group chat.
Planning a trip with women I didn’t know well had some challenges
That’s when the frustrations kicked off. We were four women with vastly different vacation styles who were now planning a seven-day trip to the Côte d’Azur.
The first issue was the budget. The pings from the group chat were never-ending as we attempted to merge various travel practices and budgets to fit the group.
Initially, it was suggested to fly into a cheaper city and completely rearrange the original itinerary. It became overwhelming, and to avoid headaches before takeoff, we ultimately settled to move forward with what I initially proposed to the group. Once we all agreed on expectations, the next step was to finalize bookings.
From there, we leaned into each other’s strengths to round out the finishing touches of the planning. I assumed the heavy lifting in finding the perfect places to stay. Because we didn’t know each other well, we all agreed to look for accommodations that would allow everyone to have their own room — and if that didn’t work, at least their own bed. We were excited to go on the trip, but also wanted to give each other space to unwind and recharge.
My method was simple: I looked around for spaces that fit the bill, selected my two favorite, and created a poll in the group chat for everyone to vote. It eliminated unnecessary back-and-forth and decision fatigue.
Chelsea, whom I had met in a group for girls who love fine dining, was the group’s resident foodie. In a location as splashy as the South of France, it’s easy to get lost in the ritzy beach clubs and restaurants and rack up unnecessarily expensive tabs for every meal. To help us avoid this, she did some digging on both the hot spots and local affordable gems. We didn’t go a day wondering, “Where should we eat?”
Then, Jen and Michaela — who I had met individually, at a late-night museum event and art gallery, respectively — took on the responsibility of organizing travel during the trip, which included renting a fabulous convertible, perfect for navigating the beautiful coasts and charming towns.
We wanted the freedom that comes with renting a car but also needed someone who could maneuver the endless winding roads, which Jen agreed to tackle for the entire trip. And with Michaela coordinating plans for flights, trains and yachts when needed, the group trip made it out of the chat in less than a month.
We all pitched in and planned an amazing trip
Everyone pitched in, which ensured no one was burdened by an unfair amount of responsibility. I occasionally chimed in with restaurant suggestions, and we designated a second captain to assist Jen while navigating unfamiliar roads.
Additionally, we all gave each other freedom to explore while still relishing each other’s company, whether it was sharing a bottle of wine with the freshest fish as the sea stretched ahead, partying at a beach club, or having a siesta on our sun-drenched balcony before a night out.
A key to a successful group trip is also accepting everyone does not have to be attached at the hip. While in Monaco, two of us spontaneously decided to splurge on a helicopter tour while the other two settled into a fabulous lunch with glasses of rosé. That kind of flexibility ensured everyone walked away satisfied at the end of the trip.
You often hear the true test of friendship is if you can travel together. For us, our stay in the South of France was just the beginning of our friendship. We all took pieces of each other home. Thanks to Chelsea, I’ll always remember to look for hidden gems away from tourist traps, and I’ve expanded my wine lists thanks to Jen, who often said, “Why not just order a bottle?” I also came home with an appreciation for jumping off yachts with Michaela. While still laughing from memories we just made, we departed already throwing out potential ideas for our next getaway.
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